Support for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse

You are not alone. Many men experience sexual abuse, even if it’s rarely talked about. At Stepping Stones North Wales, we offer confidential counselling for adult male survivors of childhood sexual abuse in a safe, supportive environment.

You are not the only one

Sexual abuse affects men of all ages, backgrounds, and identities. Many men never speak about what happened because of shame, fear, or beliefs about masculinity. You might feel that you should “just get on with it” or that it wasn’t serious enough — but your experience matters.

What happened to you was not your fault.

Why men often stay silent

  • Fear of not being believed

  • Feeling weak or ashamed

  • Worrying about being judged

  • Not knowing where to turn

  • Thinking it “wasn’t abuse”

Many men carry this alone for years. You don’t have to.

How we can support you

Our counselling service offers:

  • Free, confidential counselling for adult male survivors (18+)

  • One-to-one sessions with trained counsellors

  • Trauma-informed, non-judgemental support

  • A safe space to talk at your own pace

  • No GP referral needed

You are in control of what you share and when.

Common questions men ask

“It wasn’t violent — does it still count?”
Yes. Abuse does not have to involve physical force.

“The person was a woman / friend / family member.”
Abuse can be committed by anyone. Gender or relationship doesn’t change the impact.

“It happened years ago.”
Many men seek support decades later. Healing is still possible.

“Do you offer support to men who are LGBTQ+?”
Stepping Stones North Wales is an LGBTQ+ inclusive service and we support many LGBTQ+ people.  While we do not have an LGBTQ+ specific service, we strive for inclusivity and will always respect your identity throughout your experience with us. We are currently working on a research project which seeks to identify the support and service needs of LGBTQ+ victim-survivors.

How sexual abuse can affect men

  • Anger or emotional numbness

  • Anxiety or depression

  • Problems with trust or relationships

  • Substance use

  • Feeling disconnected from your body or sexuality

There is no “right” reaction to trauma.

You don’t have to deal with this alone

Reaching out can feel difficult, especially if you’ve been taught to keep things inside. But support is available, and you deserve help.